Emotional Intelligence

Have you cleaned your mind areas this week?

Hey I feel terrible now a days baby and I can't find out the reason behind it.
It's being your nature, wifey! Stop being very sensitive in all manners.

Many of us must have heard such type of conversation among husband and wife. That husband feels wives being sensitive without any reason. But dear husbands,  women minds are born like that, maybe hormonal difference make them to behave like that. Ladies be short tempered or may be little more emotional then husband in expression.

For that, we need some cleaning process of our mind.
Now many of you will ask is my mind a dirty room so that I will have to clean by vacuum cleaner machines. .lolz
Certainly yes, your mind is being sick of disgusting thoughts. So you need to clean it by having conversation of your own soul.

Let me tell you a small story. Today morning was nothing great then other ones for me. Just same routine,  I woke up, made my kids wake up. Make them ready for school, packed lunch for them meanwhile my husband also went for office . I made breakfast for him as well. After finishing my house hold work, I got ready for my office , packed my lunch. I greeted all my colleagues in my office n started my work. Then suddenly a customer called me and started to shout at me regarding our products n bla bla. Actually it's really a part of my job, still his attitude was very bad so I felt bad for whole day.  Then I asked my manager to handle the issue, n he was taking care of it. That's okay. Matter should have been finished by that but it didn't.  It was going on and off my mind. 
                 In the evening, my kids were around me and playing but I was not happy from inside. I made dinner but it became very spicy. So nobody could eat it. Also had a small argument with my husband. Now also next day it's gonna  same routine.

Now the thing is. The matter what happened to me is routine , it may happen to anyone.  But why it keep on running in our minds till many days, maybe months and maybe years. If some one asks you what gift you got on your 17th birthday from your dad then maybe you won't be able to answer it but if you had fight in that year. You must know each and every lines of the fights.
Yes, shit happens in everybody's life. But you have to move on by forgetting it or by forgiving .

How to kick out my mind dirt?!
First, confess if you are at fault . Come on it's all your mind confession, you don't have to confess it in front of any one.

Second, if you are not at fault , accept that you are human being. You can make mistakes. So it just happened. Take it casually.

Third, if the other person is at fault, even 100% then also, try to be big at heart and even if you are not big hearted person. Start today. If you want to race in long path.

Emotional intelligence is the key of success in 21st century.



Now let's discuss 
what is emotional intelligence?

Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify and manage your own emotions and the emotions of others. It is generally said to include 3 skills:

1. Emotional awareness, including the ability to identify your own emotions and those of others;

2. The ability to harness emotions and apply them to tasks like thinking and problems solving;

3. The ability to manage emotions, including the ability to regulate your own emotions, and the ability to cheer up or calm down another person.

Once you find out the cause, you can treat any disease very easily,  similarly when you identify your emotions , you can win half the battle running in your mind set.

In short, 
Accept you are not superman/superwoman , you can make mistakes. 
Develop ability to come out of any harsh emotion.
And yeah, miracles happen but you must be the reason!
Be strong ! And be super emotional intelligent!